Wednesday, May 1, 2013

A Living Relationship or a Dead Relationship

A few days back, I met a friend who had been living with his girlfriend for the last five years without marriage. It's a very common thing now a day and you would be really surprised if anyone shows one's astonishment over these things. But, one question remains. Was this common 20 years back? We all know that it was not. So, what is that cause which has brought such drastic change in the entire set up of the society? Is it being more technological which has led to this effect? The answer would be and should a big no. then, is the wave of modernization responsible for this change? I know many would nod their heads in the positive direction. But, again it would be denied from my side. Dear friends, if we call this the result of being modernized then the word “modernization” itself have been taken in a wrong sense. In my opinion, modernization is the development of thoughts in a positive direction rather than shedding of morals and values.


Without deviating from our main topic, let's come back to the topic of living relationships. Accumulating the results of the thoughts from all directions, the central point blames the society itself which is formed of none other than us. Sometimes, it's the pressure of the society and the family of a person which forces him to reach the peak before getting into a bond. And that's very good for the future support. But, what about the ability of the person himself? Is he capable of maintaining his chastity till marriage or trying to exploit others for enjoyment and the privilege of being single? Some drives become so dominating that the emotions and even the precious bonds of the life seem a time pass. So, the first point which comes out is the lack of marriage at the proper age which leads to such an outcome. Girls need a kind of security and the boys urge for theemotional support and in order to meet these needs, they move to take such decisions in their lives. Many people reading this article may not agree with me as the above reason may not stand true for them.

So, the other reason may be the fear of breakage. Many a times, people having already suffered in such bonds don't feel interested in marriage as it becomes a social symbol with a long process and much other legality whereas the living relationships can be broken at any point of time without such issues. Although now a days government of many countries have started to stand in favor of long living relationships or domestic partnersbut the problem still persists. So, the primary reason which comes out of this discussion is the lack of commitment, the disrespect of social bonds and the lack of tolerance in relationships. And yes, that's the answer. The young man whom I referred in the beginning may not have guts to marry and get into a social bond but can continue to live in such a relationship as it fulfills his goals with every kind of freedom. If it's not true, then why doesn't he marry? I know the reason as he is my friend and he also agrees with that as he has many friends living in living but dead relationships for the same reason. Yes, I agree that sometimes, when man wants to marry the woman may not be interested and if the woman shows interest then the man may not give green signal. But, is living relationship the solution of this issue? Many minute things for us but of mountainous size for the couple are also there such as the fuss involved in divorces, legalities related to the rights on children and other insurance related questions which refrains the couple from doing so.

To rule over one's emotions and feelings and to love someone is the greatest achievement of one's life. A person may fail once, twice or may be thrice but not throughout his life. So, please move ahead and give a social name and respect to your relationship and get into a bond which the God would also admire. Think about the future and the children born out of such relationships. What would be their fault? Why should they suffer for the lack of commitment of their parents? So, friends, come out of the fear and become committed in your lives and for living a better life. Give your life a new direction and let your love live to the utmost with the highest respect in front of the whole world
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