Showing posts with label marry. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marry. Show all posts

Friday, March 1, 2013

Changing trends- Changing relations

It focuses on the impact of relations shared among the present day generation due to the changed lifestyle.

The bond of marriage has not remained as strong as it used to be. The strings of the bond scatter very soon as the thought of its permanence are no longer persistent. The rate of divorce may differ in various nations, but the increasing rate is highlighted everywhere. The main cause for the weakened condition of this institution is our changed life style and the obsession with self rather than thinking about anyone else. It leads to other reasons such as lack of time, increasing pressure, career oriented goals and the motive to earn more and more.

As fire can only be extinguished with the help of water in the same way one person is needed to listen to the other when needed. This is the point where we lack. Due to the increasing work pressure, we can’t tolerate even the simple things as the stress and the self factor overpowers us. It’s good that we are financially more stable than we used to be, but if it takes us apart then the negative factor is ruling here. May be we don’t need our spouse for the economic stability, but the emotional hollowness always follows. We can go ahead and marry the other, but the gap continues till we mend ourselves.

The other cause for the fall of this institution is the loss of its need itself. We are no longer living in a world where sex before marriage is considered a taboo and living with a man without legal papers is a crime. Today, the fear of restriction stops us from being a part of marriage as we try to enjoy all the priorities without prioritizing the actual relation. Sometimes, it’s also the result of being suffered once and the case of not taking the chance second time.

It’s not that you continue with a rotten relation just to keep its name, but it’s also not logical to run away from a bond for the fear to be found rotten. With a changed society, the changed meanings of relations have become acceptable, the only need is to keep them intact and infuse stability in them more with the help of emotions rather than different attractions. How much ever we change or grow high, the need for emotional stability and the requirement of someone’s shoulder to lie upon in loneliness will always be felt if we are still human beings. Let’s grow with emotions, rise with love and benefit with togetherness. Nothing in the world is more soothing than the thought that someone is there who will always stand by you. Neither the money nor the growth goes to the grave, only remains are the feelings we take from others and leave with others. Trends have changed, thoughts have developed, but let the heart be in its place as its displacement is always hurting.

Saturday, February 16, 2013

Are You Ready to Marry?


Some of the questions which should be taken into consideration by both man and woman before saying yes for marriage.

These are some of the questions which should be asked from one’s own self before agreeing for marriage.

                                    


1. The first question should be whether you are compatible with your partner or not. You should check if you and your partner share the same interests, values and outlook towards life. And the most important question should be whether you like your partner as a person and not just as a passing romantic interest.


2. You should make sure that you are ready to commit to your partner and to the marriage. You should also be emotionally stable and mature enough for a commitment that comes with no guarantees. 


3. Check yourself if you are ready to take the responsibility of another person. And also make sure that you are ready and able to start a family and take care of it.


4. Ask yourself if you are financially secure and stable with long terms plans


5. Last but not the least , you should be very clear in your mind about the social and family set up of your partner