Are you Single, not Ready to Mingle?

In the past one decade, the number of people preferring to be single has increased drastically. Here, we are not discussing about the those who are divorced or living alone due to other unavoidable circumstance, but those  who love the status of being single and enjoy the freedom offered by it.

 So, let’s not confuse these happy singletons with people who are feeling alone or isolated from others. These people certainly live alone, but neither do they neither feel lonely nor are they isolated. They love spending time with friends and do social work as per their availability.

This happy single world reveals the affluence, social security as well as cultural tolerance. So, what’s the reason behind this booming culture of going single? By living alone as singles, people accomplish all the modern values like freedom and complete check on one’s own time and space. It can be called as a search for that solitude which allows a person to socialize on his or her own terms without any kind of interference. The other reason can be they are saved from sharing space with any wrong person with whom they can’t go along well.

The drastic increase in the number of people going single can be mainly due to the reason that the present generation is better trained as well as equipped for that. Living alone in your house can keep you connected with everyone as social media is always at your help.

Society generally consider singletons as people looking for a match, however it’s not always true as they prefer enjoying the freedom of the moment than waiting for a person who will obviously restrict the free bird attitude to some extent.

So, it’s only one’s interdependence which makes the independence possible. Singletons get a happier place to live today as now we are more socially connected with each other even while living alone.

Do You Love Yourself?

Many a times, we are bothered by such petty things in our lives which become a matter of laughter for others. But, still the questions keep on revolving in our minds with out the rarest possibility of being answered. Even though we know the common answers, then also we keep on waiting for some answers which may not be able to convince us but at least satisfy the hunger of our hearts.

Beauty is called the gift of god, then should ugliness be assumed as the curse of god? What is beauty? A great man said that it lied in the eyes of the beholder. True. Yes, absolutely true. A person can be considered beautiful by millions except one soul that is his own self. Is there any way to come out of this situation?

This is a kind of disease which has started overpowering the youngsters of the modern world cutting them off from their own potentials and lowering it to just the thought of ugliness. Consciousness of one’s own body grows to such an extent that a person starts forgetting his/her real identity. He/ she may be ten times better than the other at the intellectual, spiritual and the understanding level but the counting of shortcomings at the physical level by his/her own self kills all the other potentials refraining him from even trying his hands in the field he is capable to be at the top.

Many research works have shown that beauty boosts the confidence and it’s made more popular by the people discouraging their skills for the lack of beauty and others encouraging their worth by the lack of consciousness.

The solution lies in considering oneself the best and coming out of the restraints of the physical level which sometimes becomes really difficult. This is not easy as the whole problem starts from here and ends at the same point. But, let’s start to understand this and try and experiment with the actual facts rather than feeling frustrated with the sympathy of others which discourages us even more. We very well understand how it feels when we innocently ask a person, “how do I look?” and the reply comes with a true and a pinching fact, “God made everyone so, everyone is beautiful.” We acknowledge the fact and also understand the difference in the same answer if it had been asked by a really beautiful person. Here, a really beautiful person is measured on the scale of the physical level.

So, why to discourage and demean ourselves with such silly questions? Let’s rise ourselves at other levels which beauty can’t even touch and people can’t dare to ignore. Our identity lies in our skills and can be polished by our efforts. Let’s create a situation when people become forced to say,” Beauty in vain, skills make a man or a woman.” Time is to encourage our souls and force the beauties to learn from our beautiful souls.

Life is very short, so run fast to keep a pace with your thoughts, set an ambition and achieve the peak and get convinced that you are among the best. Why to die unconvinced and unsatisfied with our own lives? God did injustice, so do justice to you. Don’t leave any stone unturned to establish your own identity. Everyone dies physically with which beauty also vanishes, so achieve the beauty which can’t even be snatched by death and gets appreciated till the world lives.

Honor Killings- The Murder of Love

It focuses on the increasing number of murders in the name of honor in some parts of India.

Love, the most pure feeling of the universe, is always considered to give happiness in a human being’s life. Not only humans, it is believed to be the central force of this universe because of which the living beings exist. It is a medicine which can drag a person from the verge of death and give him the hope of leading a blissful life. 

It’s so difficult to accept the killings due to love increasing day by day. Yes, it sounds ironic but the reason stands true if we dissect the situations. These murders are named as honor killings as to prevent the honors of the families. An honorable feeling is blamed for honor killings; it is so disgusting in itself. Couples marrying each other for the sake of love are strangled in the name of caste and community. It shows that caste is higher than love and even much higher than the love of the blood relation. Yes, the revenge is taken from one’s own daughter, sister or son. The mother who gives birth to the child strangles her if she dares to choose a man of her choice. Is this protection of honor or the revelation of the animal instincts hidden inside those demons? 

Leaving everything aside, the matter of discussion is the benefit if any of the parties achieve through this. The couple leaves forever, the parents lose their child and the incident only encourages more such occurrences in the society. How we can forget that the things hidden or restricted always create curiosity and violations. The need is to understand the changes in the society and make the young generation understand with love rather than by killing their love partners. 

!! Love !!

“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever.

Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
― Bob Marley

Love And Sex, Are These Related?

Are you sexually exploited on a daily basis? You can’t deny as he has the right to sex according to the marital bond and even if you have the right to deny, how much are you able to actually use that? It’s such an irony that sexual fulfillment from both the sides does not assure of a happy married life. Heard by many and also experienced by some, most people believe in this and get confused when the circumstances faced are entirely different. So, is it right to say that a happy sex life signifies a happy married life?  A woman bows down in front of the urges of the man as he can promise for anything to get his desire fulfilled but the behavior in the later part of the day forces her to hate herself and tries to find the reason for her permission everyday.

 A woman is emotionally weaker and tries to find the love in  the physical relation with her man; however, she fails to distinguish the act of mere satisfaction from that of real love. Yes, it is very hard to know the difference but if pondered over a little, it is an easy task. Does he always show the same doting behavior or he displays a drastic change in his behavior in general? After getting the answer, and if is a big yes then we are left with nothing but a bitter feeling of helplessness. This is not a case of being educated or not, but a need to strengthen our emotional stature which becomes the weakness of a woman. The depiction of false love for the fulfillment of one’s desires is also a kind of exploitation. It not only exploits us but the realization of the truth also tortures us. It’s better to understand the truth of your love today rather than going under the knife everyday.